AITJ for dropping out as maid of honor two weeks before my best friend's wedding because she demanded I cut my hair?

¿Soy la mala por renunciar como dama de honor a dos semanas de la boda porque mi amiga me exigió cortarme el pelo?

OP spent months helping plan her best friend's wedding, only to be told she must chop off the waist-length hair she's been growing for seven years — hair tied to a deep connection with her late grandmother. When OP refused, she didn't just lose the maid-of-honor role; she lost the invitation entirely.

Necesito opiniones porque en este momento no sé si hice algo terrible o si estoy defendiendo algo completamente razonable. Contexto: tengo 27 años, vivo en Santiago, y mi mejor amiga Paloma (28) se casa este sábado. Y yo no voy a estar ahí.

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